(AP) — Taylor Swift wants the guy she dates to be an equal. She tells Harper’s Bazaar in its December-January issue that if she feels too much like she’s “wearing the pants” in the relationship, she starts to get uncomfortable and then they break up.

When it comes to work, Swift calls the shots, but in love, she says “it’s wonderful to hand over the reins to your boyfriend when you control so much of these big, high-pressure decisions.”